Accept that you are a sex and love addict. Don’t blame yourself for failures, but don’t give in either. There is no room in recovery for guilt and shame, as they perpetuate the shame spiral that often feeds our very addiction. When we spiral out of control, we may relapse, go back into our addictive behaviors. Sometimes we call this a slip.
Both guilt and shame need to be addressed head-on in recovery. Recovery provides us an opportunity to change our behaviors and to begin living a healthy fulfilling life.